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I’m thrilled to share a guest post that was inspired by a conversation I had with Lisa Shaughnessy, the wonderful host of this blog. We share a passion for assisting writers, and she suggested I write an article about why I became a book coach and how I help fiction writers overcome self-doubt so they can finish their books.

Embracing the Writer’s Journey: 
How Book Coach, Stacy Frazer, Empowers Writers to Overcome Doubt and Find the Confidence They Need to Write and Finish Their Books. 

Writing a novel is a process filled with ups and downs, doubts and triumphs. When I began my writing journey, I was riddled with insecurities, almost to the point of paralysis. I didn’t think I belonged at the writer’s table. That was for special folks, smarter folks, not me. I didn’t study writing in college. Who was I to think I could produce something like the books I treasured?

Turns out I did belong. Turns out it doesn’t matter if I don’t hold a literary degree. Degrees, accolades and publications aren’t what make me a writer.

I write.

That’s what makes me a writer.

But believing in that can be an uphill battle when you’re terrified of judgement—when you’re not used to using your voice.

That’s why I became a book coach—to be the voice and resource I wish I’d had when I began.

Back then I was desperate to hear the message, “Look, this is messy. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not doing it wrong. We all bleed in the same places and not only will you survive it, it will transform you in the best possible way.

I wanted to provide the support and encouragement that every writer deserves, especially those who, like me, felt they had no business writing a novel.

Learning the Craft:

One of the most important lessons I discovered was that writing is a learnable skill set. I wanted to hear stories of writers who started later in life and realized that they could indeed write a novel. I wanted to break free from the notion that writing was an exclusive club for the chosen few.

Because, the truth is, if you have the desire, the willingness to learn, and the determination to work through the scary bits like insecurities and false beliefs, the playing field is open to you, too.

Embracing Vulnerability:

Writing isn’t always fun. We know this, but rarely does anyone dig into the underbelly of why it’s so hard.

Writing is a vulnerable act that’s messy, and sticky; all your dark gooey bits get exposed. I yearned to hear honest conversations about this aspect of writing because it would have made me feel less alone. I wanted to know that grappling with self-doubt was part of the process. By shedding light on the challenging aspects of writing, we can normalize the experience and remind ourselves that it’s okay to struggle.

Finding Permission and Growing in Confidence:

At Write It Scared, I strive to help writers find their permission slip—the belief that they too can pursue their writing dreams. Doubt is a natural part of the creative process, and it’s essential to acknowledge and work through it. I want to instill in writers the confidence to overcome their self-doubt and have faith in their ability to bring their unique stories to life on the page.

The path may seem daunting, but with perseverance and support, writers can conquer their doubts and fears.

Navigating Procrastination and Perfectionism:

Many of my clients come to me with pieces of an idea, unsure of how to fit them together. Some have been trapped in a perpetual cycle of rewriting the same chapters for years, unable to move forward.

Procrastination and perfectionism often stand in their way.

These challenges often stem from a problem with permission and ownership—who am I to say this? Can I actually express these thoughts? Will the effort be worth it? Someone probably already did it better. I’m not creative enough.

In my work as a book coach, I dedicate significant focus to mindset work, helping writers embrace their love for writing and keep the focus on the outcomes they can control and let go of what they can’t. By fostering a willingness to learn and grow, slow down and be in the uncertainty, and know that it’s okay to be uncomfortable, writer’s find and write the story they want to tell.

Following Joy and Curiosity:

Writing isn’t just about reaching a goal; it’s also about enjoying the process. While keeping the end result in mind is necessary, it’s equally important to follow the joy, curiosity, and playfulness that fuels our creativity. Sometimes, our best ideas emerge from unexpected moments of exploration.

By balancing determination with a sense of wonder, writers can unlock their full potential and create stories that truly resonate.

Celebrating the Success of Ownership:

Recently, I had the privilege of interviewing one of my clients who had been working on his story for four years before seeking my help. Together, we embarked on a journey to rework his book. It took incredible bravery and commitment on his part, but he completed a full rewrite of his manuscript and that book is so strong now!

Throughout the process, he discovered that his self-perception as a non-writer was based on a label he’d accepted a long time ago: from his 12th-grade English teacher, no less. Today, he embraces his true identity as a writer, and his story serves as a testament to the power of belief and perseverance.

Unleashing the Battle Cry for Writers:

Witnessing individuals step into their passion for writing and work through their doubts and fears brings me immeasurable joy.

As a book coach, my purpose is not only to educate writers on the art of storytelling and the craft of writing but also to empower them to embrace their unique voices, find confidence, and fearlessly express themselves.

Writing is a journey of self-discovery, and it’s my honor to be a guide and support system for writers who are navigating their own paths.

If you’ve ever questioned your ability to write or felt overwhelmed by the challenges of the creative process, remember that you are not alone.

Writing is a learnable skill, and with dedication, a growth mindset, and the willingness to confront your fears, you can conquer the obstacles that stand in your way.

Give yourself permission to pursue your passion, trust the process, and believe in your voice.

So, my fellow writers, here is my battle cry: Let’s embrace our doubts, let’s face our fears, and let’s write our hearts and guts out.

Writing a novel is an inside job we don’t do alone. 

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About Stacy Frazer

Stacy Frazer, book coach at Write It Scared

Stacy Frazer is a formerly repressed creative soul turned speculative fiction writer, YA fantasy author, Author Accelerator certified book coach, and the founder of Write It Scared. 

Her mission is to help fiction writers let go of the self-doubt spiral, find joy, gain clarity and confidence in their story so they can finish their books. 

Stacy firmly believes that the only creative license required to write a novel is one’s lived experience and that you can learn all the tools to craft a book that makes you proud!

When not writing, reading, or working with writers, you can find Stacy hanging with her daughter or on the trail with her big goofy Labrador, Gus Gus. 

To connect with Stacy, please visit her website: www.writeitscared.co. You can also email her at Stacy@writeitscared.co or follow her on Instagram @WriteitScared.